When it comes to special occasions, you and I both know a narcissist destroys them just for fun. They are so thirsty for attention that they sacrifice your happiness in seconds to stay in the limelight. They also do some really strange things on these special days that make no sense. For example, on their birthday, they might appear overly grandiose by dressing in a weird and different way from how they usually do. They might also behave delusionally, saying things that make no sense just to send one message: I am empowered. This is my new birth. I’m going to pretend to start a new, fake life, and everything I feel ashamed of—I will forget it all.
Number One: They will intentionally break up with you on your birthday or theirs. Why? For the pleasure of it. They’re sadistic in nature—not just some, but I believe all narcissists are sadistic in one way or another. Why else would they wait so patiently, like a viper or a predator, to strike when it hurts the most? They watch you silently as you prepare for that day, witnessing your happiness grow. They see you dance with anticipation, but they don’t make a move or say anything. They don’t prepare you for the fallout. Instead, they wait, patiently, like a lion hiding in tall grass. Why do they do this? Because they know their joy lies in striking when the iron is hot—when you are ready to receive the injury. And when is that? On your special day. On the eve of your birthday, they will announce their departure. They’ll message you and say, “Oh, I don’t think it’s working. I’m sorry. I’m breaking up with you.” How do they feel about it? They feel the rush of good hormones, a flood of dopamine coursing through their veins. Their pleasure lies in your pain, as difficult as that is to accept. That’s why they’re so cruel.
They may also intentionally cheat on you on their birthday and leave a trail behind for you to find, so you feel sad, bad, and replaced.
Number Two: They may set a court date for your divorce on your wedding anniversary. Who does that? A narcissist does. Why? To make it a double-edged sword, to hurt you both ways—on the day you met them, and again with the pain of divorce. How cruel is that? They will take you to court on your anniversary, a day you may have celebrated together for years. Yes, it was all fake—a big lie—but still, they will ruin and destroy all your memories. They’ll make you question your reality, and you’ll wonder, Who is this person? “Today is our wedding anniversary. At the very least, they could have respected that and said or done nothing. But instead, they’re taking me to court.” It requires intentionality—they know the impact it will have on you, but they simply don’t care.
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