Narcissists are constantly motivated to stay on the move 24/7, driven by a fear of stagnation. They can’t tolerate the thought of not achieving. That’s why they make impulsive decisions for themselves and even for you. For example, my father took exams he didn’t need to, studying into his 40s just for the high of passing. He wasn’t seeking peace or relaxation; he craved that next achievement. He projected this rush onto me, making decisions for my life that I wasn’t involved in. Narcissists need to prove themselves constantly, and the easiest way to do that is by working non-stop or pushing their children toward success, regardless of what others truly want.
3. Deprivation or Lack of Abundance
The only way to get more effort from a narcissist is by offering them less. I know it sounds counterintuitive, but if you’re always available, giving love, attention, and validation, they’ll devalue you. Narcissists believe they’re unworthy of love and must chase it, even though they claim they deserve it all. Deep down, they feel unlovable and fear abandonment, which is why they panic when you don’t answer their calls or give them attention. To get what they want, they may temporarily behave nicely, only to discard you later.
4. Fantasy of Defeating Rivals
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