This all begs the question: why do they keep coming back after leaving you? Even after degrading you, cheating on you, or ghosting you, these men come back. Why? Because deep down, they know no one else will put up with them the way you did. No one else will love them through the pain, offer empathy, or forgive the unforgivable. They come back not because they have changed or want to change, but because they still believe they can win.
If you take them back, the cycle continues and only gets worse because now they know where your limits are, and now their hatred has a deeper justification: “She let me do it again; she must be weak.” They don’t return for love; they return for dominance.
Healing and Moving Forward
If you have been through something like this, you have to heal, because healing means seeking the truth—not trying to fix them. Being in a relationship with this type of man makes you spend months, even years, wondering what you did wrong. You didn’t do anything wrong. You tried harder. You softened yourself, became smaller, quieter, more agreeable. But none of it worked because he didn’t want you; he wanted control.
Healing begins when you stop trying to fix someone who was never broken in the way you thought. When you realize that his hatred of women was never your burden to carry. You did not make him hate women; he came that way. The longer you stay, the more you start hating yourself.
This is why, if you’re trying to heal, join my free workshop happening on June 5th. The link is in the description. In this workshop, I’ll help you understand how you can thrive and never need a man like this in your life.
