All of this is emotional sadism—a slow, calculated form of psychological warfare—and it is all rooted in the same core belief: “I must win. I must be the one in control.” The narcissist does not want to love a woman; he wants to own her. That’s why your kindness was never enough. That’s why your loyalty did not earn you peace. That’s why every time you tried to reason with him, he twisted your words into weapons. To him, love is nothing but obedience, agreement, and submission. The moment you disagreed, you became his enemy.
This is why they often date women who are younger, financially dependent, or emotionally vulnerable. Why? Because it’s not that they want to protect them; it’s because they are easier to control. The moment these women gain strength, what happens? The narcissist either escalates the abuse or discards them like trash, if he can.
The truth that no one tells you is that their hatred comes from self-loathing. They’re miserable. Underneath all the arrogance and charm lies something most people miss: self-hate. These men do not just hate women; they hate themselves for needing women, for being so dependent. They hate their own emotional weaknesses, their childhood vulnerability, the parts of them that once cried, begged, or longed for affection. Every time they see a strong woman, they’re reminded of their own powerlessness. So, what do they do? Naturally, they lash out. They punish you for being what they are not and cannot become, for having what they lack, for healing the wounds they never faced. The more healed you are, the more dangerous you become to them, because your very existence threatens their entire identity.
