But what I will say to you is this: this person doesn’t really know how to love on a healthy level. You know, there may have been snippets of this at certain points within the relationship, and don’t get me wrong, like, you probably had some wonderful times with this person, and there are memories with this person, but there is no depth to this. There isn’t this long-lasting kind of foundation in these relationships because it is not built to last.”
The narcissist doesn’t love you; the narcissist doesn’t enter into this relationship for it to last forever. What they enter this relationship into is to get their needs met. They have an agenda; they know this relationship is not going to last forever. So they need to make sure that their needs are met in a certain time point so that when you do eventually leave, they are going to be okay. They’re going to have somebody else who they can run to and get supply.”
They’re going to make sure that they’re okay. And they’re never going to tell you; they’re never going to explain this to you because, actually, they don’t know that they said, they don’t have the bandwidth to be able to explain this to you. Maybe they might know that there’s something a little bit off or something’s not okay, but they’re never going to be able to explain it to you in this way that they have an attachment disorder, that they’re not able to connect.”
And it’s not just you; please don’t think it’s just you. This is happening to everybody that they have been involved in a relationship with. So please know that it’s not because you weren’t enough. This is how the narcissist loves. Okay, this is what they expect from you.
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