Today, I want to talk about how the narcissist knows they’ve lost you. How do they know when someone is of no use to them? How do they weed out good sources of supply from the bad ones?
Narcissists love having people around them, but every so often, they lose out on that one person they can’t get their fangs into. When this happens, the narcissist knows that you’re someone who got away—or someone they just can’t have again.
The best way to get away from a narcissist is by not being a source of any form of narcissistic supply for them. We know narcissists are guilty of discarding people when there’s nothing more to gain. They lose interest fast and don’t waste time on people who are not interesting to them or interested in them. Narcissists are careful with their time and resources. If you’re not providing the fuel they need to keep going, you become a liability, and they simply don’t want you around anymore.
How Narcissists Control People
Narcissists thrive on control, and they achieve control by manipulating emotions. They gain a large amount of narcissistic supply when they are the ones pulling the strings—putting you on an emotional rollercoaster of confusion and chaos. They feel powerful when they know they can make you laugh, cry, scream, feel guilty, or sad. But, most importantly, they feel powerful when they can manipulate you into keeping them in your life.
At the end of the day, it’s all about control. Narcissists need to control you, and they do so by messing with your emotions. They like to know that they can influence your mood, your behavior, and even your lifestyle. They know what to say and how to act to trigger a response from you. As long as they can influence you or push your buttons, they believe they’ve got you right where they want you.
To a narcissist, once you’re emotionally invested, they know they can manipulate you, which gives them a sense of control. When your emotions are involved, the narcissist’s ultimate goal is to manipulate them. So, once you recognize you’re dealing with a narcissist, you have to learn to control your emotions. If you don’t, the narcissist will control them for you. It’s that simple.
How to Manage a Narcissist
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