Gray rocking is another strategy that can be combined with low contact. It involves being emotionless and uninteresting in your responses, which can agitate a narcissist but may eventually lead them to lose interest. Gray rocking can be challenging, especially in co-parenting situations, as children may perceive the gray rocking parent as odd.
Yellow rocking, a term coined by Tina Swithin, is often used in co-parenting. It adds a touch of basic manners and warmth to gray rocking while still maintaining a disengaged stance.
Firewalling is a technique designed to protect your vulnerabilities from manipulation. It involves setting boundaries and monitoring what you share, making it difficult for the narcissistic person to manipulate you.
Finally, there’s the option of simply communicating as usual, which often leads to falling into the trap of defending yourself and being gaslit. If you can’t go no contact, a hybrid approach of firewalling and yellow rocking may be the best option.
These techniques won’t be easy, but they provide tools to protect yourself and help you see the situation more realistically. Ultimately, you can’t win in these relationships; as soon as you attempt authentic engagement, it often backfires.
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