For the initial years of my life, I did not play the role of a black sheep or scapegoat in my narcissistic family unit. I was the golden child of my narcissistic mother and the scapegoat of my father. However, I never chose to speak the truth because I had no options. This is why I want to validate those who were not able to speak the truth. This does not mean you were weak or liars; it simply means you responded differently to the same environment, which is totally okay.
Later, when I saw through the dysfunction and distanced myself from those toxic people, I recognized that something was deeply wrong. That is when I chose to speak the truth, and that is when I faced backlash. When I started to talk about my family, I began with my narcissistic father, with whom I had already gone no contact. He had no way to express his rage. But when I talked about my mother, a covert narcissist, I felt guilty. It took immense strength and courage to open up about her. When I did, she guilt-tripped me by pretending to be hurt, crying, and acting, but it had zero impact on me. I stayed firm because I knew I was not smear campaigning; I was telling my story to help others who could resonate with it.
When her guilt-tripping did not work, she turned my allies against me. I lost all my extended family for good. They believed the lies spread about me, and I lost them, but I am happy to have moved on. Narcissists try their best to destroy truth-tellers, but they do not always succeed. Truth-tellers were not born to be destroyed; they were born to break the chains and create new futures. They were born to annihilate narcissism.
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