Does a narcissist want to see you again? Do they actually care about you after they’ve left the relationship? Maybe you’ve wondered if a narcissist is going to reach out again as you go through life. Will they still ask about you? Perhaps you find yourself wondering whether the narcissist actually misses you or simply misses having control over you. Many people struggle with this question: What’s actually true? Is the narcissist thinking about me? Do they genuinely want to see me? What’s really going on?
In this exploration, we’ll delve into understanding when a narcissist leaves you and the reasons behind their desire to either stay away or reconnect. We need to examine some of the mindsets and underlying motivations that influence their behavior. By discussing this, you can gain insight into the behavior of a narcissist and begin to release some of the emotional attachments that may hinder your healing and growth.
When we talk about whether a narcissist actually wants to see you or come back, we first need to focus on one of their core motivations: control. Narcissists often seek control over you, the situation, and their image. Many thrive on this power dynamic. For instance, in my own journey, I felt that if I could control someone, then I loved them. This skewed perception led me to manipulate others to maintain that control.
Narcissists often exhibit this need for control to fulfill their own desires. A significant aspect is their control over their image; they want to ensure that people in their lives behave in ways that support the image they project to the outside world. This manipulation is often strategic, especially when they leave a relationship.
I had a client whose narcissistic partner broke up with her, stating he didn’t want her anymore. However, he later initiated contact to bring her back, only to leave again—this was all about maintaining control. He didn’t want her to think she had autonomy in the relationship; it had to be his decision to leave.
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