Your calmness is your internal fight. Your management of your emotions is your internal fight. Your management of your state is what will give you real power. To this narcissist, power is saying nasty things about you, exposing you, saying horrible things to the world, assuming that everybody is going to just eat it up and believe it as they say it. But what they do not understand is that evidence shows the contrary. They have anecdotal evidence just from their experiences, and they use black-and-white thinking. They come to conclusions very easily. But if you try to show that nature—the gray zone—if you show the opposite of what they make it seem to be, you can always have the upper hand. If the truth comes out, they lose it because the truth annihilates a narcissist. I say it always as well. These are my words: if you in any way bring out the truth and put it just in front of them, but in a very slow process, in a very strategic process, you will always have the upper hand. You will win against them. When that happens, they will lose it. That’s the moment we’re waiting for. They will shoot themselves in their own foot, and that is when the mask will fall off. They might collapse right in that moment.
So that is the trick. As I said, it’s not a step; it’s not even a combination of many steps. It’s a process, and you have to test the waters regularly. You have to check what’s working and what’s not working so that you can change your strategy as you go. Yes, keep your destination in mind, but have fluidity in your approach. Be flexible because they change; they are shape-shifters, and you have to adapt to that change and shape-shifting as well.
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