You are the mirror of false divinity. Let me explain what I mean by that. The narcissist needs narcissistic supply like we need oxygen. They need to be adored, admired, and worshiped. For years, you looked at them with eyes of love. Even when they were abusive, you looked at them with hope. You saw potential in them that did not exist. You projected your own divinity onto them. When they looked in your eyes, they saw a reflection of a god. They felt special because you made them feel special.
When you walk away, though, the mirror breaks. They look around for someone to reflect that grandeur back to them. But the casual flings and shallow friends, the enablers they surround themselves with, cannot replicate the depth of love you gave, whether they understood it or not. They don’t look at the narcissist with deep admiration. They look at them with indifference or fakery. The narcissist creates a supply vacuum. They start to starve. This leads to what I usually talk about: the narcissist’s collapse. They feel empty, worthless, and invisible. They realize perhaps for the first time that the greatness they felt was never theirs; it was yours reflected back at them. Without you, they’re forced to confront the ordinary, broken, empty person they truly are. But none of this will ever be admitted by them. This is a deeply felt sense of shame.
Conclusion: Walking into the Sun
I want you to understand this deeply. You did not destroy them by leaving; you simply stopped saving them from themselves. For a very long time, the narcissist convinced you that you were the problem. They told you that you were lucky to have them, but the truth is they were surviving off your light. They were a parasite attached to a host. And when the host heals and detaches, the parasite withers.
Do not feel guilty for their downfall. It’s not your job to be the shield for someone who wields a sword against you. It’s not your job to be the shock absorber for their toxicity. By walking away, you have returned the responsibility for their life back to where it belongs: in their hands. You are free now. The heavy lifting is over. Let them face their own storms while you finally walk into the sun. If this resonates with you, if you have seen the narcissist’s life crumble after you left, share your story in the comments.
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