You know what happens when you open your mouth in front of a narcissist and choose to be vulnerable? You share some intimate information, and they may shed a few tears with you. Yes, they will pretend to have empathy, but you and I both know that it’s not real. They are scanning the information for weak points, looking for things they can use against you later. If you tell them about your absent father, neglectful mother, or partners who have abused you in the past, what will they do? They might console you in the moment, but later on, they’ll throw the same information back in your face, telling you that you are the problem because of your daddy issues or mommy issues. You know how the story goes.
That’s why I say you cannot share information with them; they are not the ones to take care of it. What you share with them are pearls to you—very precious. But do you know what the deal is with swine? They don’t care about pearls. It’s the same thing. So, keeping your mouth shut in front of them is the strategy. I know that in moments of extreme vulnerability, people tend to share, but there are certain things I want to warn you against. No matter what happens, these things must never be shared with a narcissist under any circumstances.
Number One: Your Future Plans
Forget about your past. Narcissists focus on your future mainly because they want to know your trajectory. They want to understand how you plan your moves. They’re predators who need a counterplan to keep you controlled and contained at all times. So, you must not share your big moves with them, no matter what. If you’re thinking of leaving your job, don’t tell the narcissist.
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