They keep you in permanent survival mode by draining your resources. A cycle breaker needs resources to escape—money, time, and mental clarity. The narcissistic parent will do everything in their power to ensure you have none of those. This is a cold, calculated move to keep you dependent. They may sabotage your job opportunities, guilt-trip you into giving them money, or create constant manufactured emergencies that require your immediate attention. They drain your bank account and your emotional battery simultaneously. When you are constantly fighting fires that they started, you do not have the energy to build a life of your own, do you? They want you so exhausted by the struggle for survival that you never have the strength to look at the horizon and plan your exit. They are keeping you in the basement of your own life, so you never realize you own the whole house.
Shameful Flaws: Twisting Your Strengths
Number three: they frame your greatest strengths as the most shameful flaws. This is one of the most demonic flips they perform. The varied traits that make you the chosen one—your empathy, discernment, and integrity—are the things they target as weaknesses. If you’re empathetic, they call you too sensitive, foolish, or weak. If you call out a lie, they label you suspicious, paranoid, or difficult. If you have high standards, they label you judgmental or critical. They take your spiritual armor and try to convince you it’s a straitjacket. They want you to feel ashamed of the very qualities that will eventually allow you to heal and lead others. By distorting your reality, they make you reject the tools you need to break the generational curse. They want you to hate the only parts of yourself that can actually save you.
Isolation: Cutting Off Your Lifelines
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