Narcissists do not have real friends. In fact, they do not have many friends at all. They’re typically surrounded by “flying monkeys” and enablers who only uplift their ego and provide a steady stream of supply. But what about survivors of narcissistic abuse? Why don’t they have many friends?
Reason #1: You’re Done with Fake Relationships and Friendships
After enduring narcissistic abuse, you cannot tolerate superficial relationships anymore. You’re unable to smile in someone’s face and gossip behind their back. That kind of toxic behavior doesn’t align with your values. You crave transparency, mutual growth, authenticity, and compassion.
Unfortunately, many modern friendships revolve around betrayal and drama, which you’ve experienced firsthand. Your limited energy cannot be wasted on relationships that lead to pain rather than healing or growth. This doesn’t make you a loner—it makes you someone who values meaningful, high-quality connections.
Reason #2: Social Anxiety Leads to Social Awkwardness
Narcissistic relationships often erode your self-esteem, leaving you filled with self-doubt and anxiety. Constant gaslighting and criticism from the narcissist may have conditioned you to question your social skills and ability to connect.
Even after leaving the relationship, their voice lingers in your mind, making you overanalyze and filter everything you say. You may feel safer avoiding social situations altogether because engaging with others feels overwhelming. This is a trauma response, as your brain perceives friendships as potential threats.
Reason #3: You’re a Truth-Teller
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