5. The truth-teller.
So another person that a narcissist can’t stand, and I mean truly despises, is the truth-teller. And if you’re the truth-teller of your family or group, you know exactly what I mean. Truthtellers will call out bad behavior regardless of who it’s done to. So these are the last people you’ll see as flying monkeys for the narcissist. They aren’t the ones who will be doing the narcissist’s dirty work. I can pretty well guarantee that. Quite the contrary, they’re the ones trying to clean it up with a healthy dose of truth. And it’s pretty obvious why a narcissist would despise this person. Truthtellers make it difficult for narcissists to manipulate, abuse, and exploit others.
So what does a narcissist do around a truth-teller? They might avoid or alienate them. But this can sometimes be difficult to do, especially in family dynamics. So if they can’t avoid or alienate, they’ll do everything they can to discredit this person. Maybe they’ll make fun of them, insult their intelligence, and maybe even claim that their motives are impure. This is exactly how the truth tellers so often become scapegoats in the black sheep, unfortunately.
If you can relate to this and you feel like you’re the truth-teller, keep being you. But I would also strongly caution to let go of any expectations that people are going to change. People will only ever change when they’re ready, and that’s usually when the pain of staying in the same place is greater than the fear of change itself. So keep standing up for yourself, and also try to learn to love people for who they are and where they are, or to let them go, whichever seems like the healthier option for you. But expecting them to be something they’re not probably isn’t the healthiest option.
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