Some other time, they would reach out and have a very witty, fun-filled, heartfelt conversation with you. You would feel connected, and you would feel seen. They do it, especially somewhere near the devaluation stage where this is given as bread; probably they are in a good mood, or they want something from you, or they want to prevent you from leaving. There is some kind of ulterior motive that you can’t see, but this texting is quite witty, fun-filled, and connected; it feels heartfelt, but it’s not. And ultimately, it is just one of those special and unique experiences that you have that makes you feel fulfilled, but then they deprive you of the same. And this kind of conversation either does not happen again throughout the duration of the relationship, or it happens after a very, very long time when they want something from you and they know they won’t get it easily. What it does to you is that it just reinforces your trauma bonding; it makes you keep coming back and craving the same intensity that you felt once in that conversation. It increases your cognitive dissonance, and you ask questions like, ‘Well, maybe he is not that bad. She is not so narcissistic. Why else would she or he have such a heartfelt conversation with me?’ through text. They don’t see you at all. It’s just more about how they feel and what they want once they get it. Done.
1:They leave you hanging.
They leave you hanging by hooking you with a small text without interest or content. For example, they might send a text early in the morning at 9 a.m. saying good morning, but then when you respond instantly, they leave you hanging there. It’s like them pressing a button in you, eliciting a reaction, seeing that you are still there, and then running away and then taking some kind of sadistic pleasure from seeing you suffer from wanting to have that conversation. This mind game of back and forth, push and pull drives a person crazy because you do not know how to respond to this kind of behavior; you do not know where you are; you don’t know what your status is; you don’t know where you stand in this relationship. You don’t know what’s happening because it’s confusing. They would ignore you, and if you ignored them back then, they would come in and drop this little text. Hi. Hello. Good morning. Whatever. You respond, and you think maybe now they have realized, and then they drop you like a hot potato, and it is the same pattern again. It keeps happening over and over again until you just feel like you have turned into a shell of yourself.
5 Sadistic Things Narcissists Find Entertaining
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