As a kid, I hated to eat with my family, especially when my father was around. You may wonder why. Well, he had some weird and toxic eating habits that made sharing a meal with him a very painful experience. Instead of letting you fill your tummy with food, he would fill it with stress and trauma. I remember always leaving the gathering in a torn-apart state, feeling confused and just shaming myself for not making an excuse to avoid eating with him. Now that I look back, I can recognize that these toxic habits were extremely abusive and very stressful to deal with, which is the reason why I am creating this episode today.
1. They behave animalistically when eating.
Number one, they behave animalistically when eating. Now, nothing against animals. I’m just helping you understand how their behavior may look. They make really loud noises, have zero table manners, do not respect other people who are eating around them, do not cover their mouth, and make these weird sounds as if they just want to fill that bin in their mouth. They don’t care what they’re eating or how much they’re eating. They just want to engulf it all as if they have not seen food for years and this is the last quantity they will ever get their hands on. It’s crazy to understand, but that is how it is, especially with cerebral narcissists who are brain-centered, computer-like in nature, and completely dissociated and disconnected from their body. They do not care about what they are wearing, how they look, how they smell, and so on. It’s all in their head. I remember asking my father once how the food tasted. He took a pause, looked at me while taking in food, and asked, “What do you mean by ‘what does it taste like’? What is taste?” These were his words: “What is taste?” I was taken aback. I thought maybe he was kidding. You are a human being, and of course, you have the capability to taste things, don’t you? That’s what makes me think they don’t have a sense of taste or texture. They don’t care about it. He literally told me, “If you were to give me cattle feed and mix it with some salt, I’ll eat it as well. It doesn’t matter. One should have something to eat, and that is enough.” Now, one may think, “Oh, that’s so humble of him.” Of course not. He was disgusting when it came to what he ate and how he prepared it. The crazy thing is they start a fight if you make a request and ask them to chew quietly. “It’s bothering me. Can you just keep it quiet a little bit? Can you close your mouth when eating, please?” No, they will perceive it as criticism or some form of attack. It’s not like you’re making up the problem or shaming them. Clearly, they are not eating like a human being, and you’re eating around them. It’s your right to be at peace and eat calmly, but they are stealing that away. That is entitlement. It’s not wrong to ask a person to just behave normally, but they don’t consider that aspect. It’s all about them, and how dare you question their behavior? For it is perfect, and there must be something wrong with your ears. “Go get them checked. You’re hearing a lot nowadays,” that’s what they would say.
2. Some narcissists experience delurgasm when eating.
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