Female covert narcissists are experts at appearing emotionally intelligent, and they use this façade as a tactic for manipulation and control. Recognizing their emotional immaturity is essential for understanding the underlying reasons for their controlling ways.
1. Communication and Conflict Management Skills
Female covert narcissists often struggle with communication and conflict management. They are frequently surrounded by drama—arguing with one person, ignoring another, or clashing with family, friends, or colleagues. Unfortunately, their partners often bear the brunt of this behavior.
Their poor communication skills and inability to manage conflict mean even minor disagreements can escalate into full-blown emotional battles. A narcissist’s goal is to protect their ego and maintain control, not resolve the issue.
If you approach conflicts calmly and respectfully, they may:
- Dismiss you outright
- Become defensive
- Twist the situation to make you the “bad guy”
While everyone can occasionally struggle during a disagreement, the narcissist consistently reacts with:
- Outbursts or defensiveness
- Self-pity or passive-aggressive behaviors
- Childish tactics like sulking, withdrawing, or giving the silent treatment
Healthy individuals might take a moment to calm down and resolve problems reasonably. In contrast, a narcissist either shuts down or escalates, turning minor issues into major arguments. Over time, this pattern discourages you from addressing problems, as it only leads to more drama.
2. Psychological Inflexibility
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