Number five, and the last one: your forgiveness will crush them more than your anger ever did. Your anger is what the narcissist loves the most, as they thrive on it. If your anger remains unprocessed, it gives them a sick kind of satisfaction. But when you actually let go, it sends chills down their spine. When you truly forgive—whatever that means to you—without asking for anything in return, when you let go and walk away, something inside them breaks. Because letting go doesn’t just mean you have to justify what they did to you or accept that it’s okay and take them back. It means you feel nothing but indifference and say, “I don’t want revenge. I don’t need an apology.” You are not chasing that closure anymore. You are not looking over your shoulder anymore, and in their world, that’s not supposed to happen.
In their mind, you are supposed to be stuck—either in hate or in longing. But here you are, neither angry nor attached, just done. And that quiet, calm “done” cuts deeper than any screaming match ever could. It tells them they can’t get back the version of you that once believed in them, that once loved them, that tried. That part is gone, and they can now feel it.
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