With the worst of the worst illnesses, make their bodies a reflection of the pain they cause. It may sound shocking, but this is the secret space where their jealousy, animosity, and rage spill into something almost ritualistic. When you leave them, you need to know you’re not just walking out of a relationship; you’re walking out of their fantasy. That fantasy is built on the idea that they own you—your body, mind, and emotions. When you take back yourself, your body, when you sleep better and glow brighter, or even just start taking care of yourself, it bothers them. It enrages them. They see your health improving as proof that they were the sickness all along, and that is a truth they cannot bear. So what do they do? They ask God to bring illness into your life—not out of any real belief in justice, but as a way to level the playing field. If they’re suffering, you should be too. They want your body to mirror the helplessness they feel inside but never show. They imagine you fatigued, energy drained, your body breaking down slowly, and they hope it humbles you back into the role they assigned you: the dependent one, the weak one, and the one that needs saving. They cannot stand the idea of you glowing in your freedom, so they beg the divine to dim your light from the inside out. The craziest part is they truly believe they’re justified in asking for it.
Number Three: Financial Downfall
The third thing a narcissist silently begs God for is your financial downfall. Financial independence terrifies them, not only because it means you no longer need them, but also because it’s one of the strongest ways you reclaim your identity. Money, to a narcissist, is power. It is how they reward, punish, control, and manipulate. If you are able to survive—and worse, thrive—without them, it cuts right through their sense of superiority. It proves they were never your provider, which is what they like to believe; never your savior or your source. So in their bitter moments, they pray for your success to stall. They hope your bank account is empty, your plans fall apart, and your dreams are delayed. They want you to struggle to pay rent, to question your decisions, and to feel ashamed about needing help. They imagine you stuck in scarcity, barely getting by, and they find comfort in that image because, in their eyes, that would make you more controllable. It would bring you back down to the version of you they could dominate. Most of all, they want others to see you struggling too because they want the world to believe you were doing better with them. They want people to say, “Oh, he or she was more stable when they were together.” That false narrative feeds their ego and masks their abuse. So they beg God—not with humility, but with spite—to remove the very tools that are helping you rebuild. It is not your money they want to see gone; it is your freedom.
Number Four: Punishment for Leaving
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