If there’s one thing that binds all survivors of narcissistic abuse, it’s the surprising habits they share. These are actions they perform daily, often unaware that millions of others do the same. It’s as if we’re all reading from the same book. But what are these habits, and why are they so surprising? Let’s explore them in today’s episode.
Habit 1: Watching the Same Movies on Repeat
The first habit is watching the same movies repeatedly to feel safe. Raise your hand if you’re guilty of re-watching the same series over and over! You know the plot, the twists, every detail—you can even recite the dialogues with precision. Why do you do it?
Sure, you might be a fan of the show, but it’s more than that. It’s about predictability. With a narcissist, there is no predictability and little comfort; you’re constantly seeking a safe escape. That familiar movie or show fills that need, creating a sanctuary.
In my childhood, peace was rare. My parents fought constantly, and there was no emotional connection. My mother was a covert narcissist, always crying over something, and my father, a malignant narcissist, was cold and absent. I found a sense of nurture from those movies. I especially related to Harry Potter’s life, as he was without parents, much like I felt even with mine in the same house. For me, watching was about finding connection, validation, and predictability in a world of chaos.
This habit isn’t merely about watching a movie; it’s about reliving a comforting emotion, recreating that initial sense of calm. It’s a technique to move away from a state of constant anxiety. Do you have a movie you binge-watch or a character you relate to? Let me know in the comments!
Habit 2: Revenge Bedtime Procrastination
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