Five: taking what isn’t theirs. If you’ve ever let a narcissist into your home, you may not realize what else you’ve let in. They watch, they touch, they take. A trinket from your dresser, a few bills missing from your wallet, a secret from your drawer. They feel entitled to everything you own because, in their mind, you exist to serve their story. The narcissist isn’t just stealing objects; they’re stealing peace. They invade your space, your privacy, your trust until nothing feels safe anymore. That’s the quiet robbery they commit when your back is turned.
And sometimes, the darkest act of all is reaching for those closest to you—yes, even people you love: a friend, a family member, anyone they think might give them admiration or attention. The narcissist doesn’t see boundaries, only opportunities. They’ll flirt with your friends, message your loved ones, and test their loyalty. If someone bites the bait, the narcissist wins twice—once by gaining new supply, and again by watching your heartbreak. If your friend joins in, it reveals something painful: the narcissist wasn’t the only one without empathy.
This is what happens when the eyes turn away. The narcissist thrives in the unseen, in the moments between trust and betrayal. But remember this: every secret act eventually comes to light. Truth has a way of surfacing, even from the darkest depths. And when it does, it frees you—not just from the narcissist, but from the illusion that kept you bound.
There’s something chilling about the quiet moments when you think everything is fine, when you believe the storm has passed and peace has settled in. But that’s when the narcissist moves. When you’re not looking, when your guard is down, that’s when the games begin again.
Let’s talk about the unseen—the hidden things a narcissist does in the shadows of your trust. The narcissist never stops hunting. Not when you’re at home, not when you’re at work, not when you think the relationship is steady. They flirt with your friends, charm your co-workers, and test the boundaries of decency. Sometimes, they even turn their gaze toward your family: your parents, your siblings. To the narcissist, nothing is sacred; no bond is off limits. Wherever admiration can be found, that’s where they go.
Workplaces become playgrounds for secret affairs. Office lunches become auditions for the next supply. All the while, the narcissist returns to you smiling, pretending nothing ever happened. Then there are the money issues: the secret accounts, the whispered phone calls to that toxic parent who always seems to be involved, the narcissist crying poverty—”I don’t know how I’m going to pay the bills. I can’t buy shoes for my child.” But behind that performance lies a trail of hidden cash tucked away in someone else’s hands. They hoard it, guard it, and lie about it. And if you ever find out, it’s never their fault; it’s always someone else’s doing. You see, the narcissist is a master illusionist. They’ll tell you they’re loyal while meeting other supply early in the morning, before work, before the world wakes.
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