Second, they act like they do not care, but they are actually obsessed with you. Let me prove it: this is one of the biggest illusions they create. When you break up with a narcissist, temporarily or permanently, or when they discard you, they act like you never existed. They act cold and heartless, posting pictures on social media to show the world how amazing their life is now. They post those frozen moments of happiness—laughing with friends, a new partner, partying, celebrating an anniversary, or showcasing a promotion or engagement. They surround themselves with fake proof and enablers who tell them how great they are. You look at those pictures and think, “Wow, they really do not care about me at all. They moved on so fast, and here I am, struggling and suffering.” But this is a lie. Behind the scenes, they are spiraling. They depend on your reactions more than you depend on them. When you stop reacting, they start starving.
While they post those happy pictures, they are stalking you. They check your profile fifty times a day and create fake accounts to watch your stories. They are obsessing over you, their minds racing with questions like, “Who is she with? Who is this new person? Is he better than me? What are they doing right now?” They constantly compare themselves to your new life. If they see you doing well, they feel Agitated—aggravated. If you deal with a reactive, obsessive narcissist willing to go to war, they may reach out to your new partner or play twisted mind games to sabotage your new relationship. They want to ensure you remain miserable. The happy face they show the world is a mask; underneath, they are a frantic, jealous mess who cannot stand the idea of you surviving without them.
Corrupted Desires: Narcissists’ Lack of Moral Filter
Third, their desires are corrupted. They can sleep with almost anyone, and while this is disturbing, we must talk about it because it shows the true nature of their souls. A narcissist’s soul is corrupted and, as a result, their desires have no filter. When a normal, healthy human being feels attraction, there is a link in their brain connected to intimacy; they feel attracted to a human being, an adult, with whom they connect. There are standards and a biological need for connection. A narcissist does not feel intimacy like normal people. For them, sex and desire are not about connection; they are about supply, about feeling good temporarily without attachment. This means that the person they use to fulfill their desires does not matter; their nature does not matter either. It can be almost anybody. As long as that person or thing serves their ego, they will use it. They do not look at a partner as a soul, but as a tool—like a toaster or a microwave. You do not build a deep connection with a toaster; you just use it when you are hungry.
This is why they can cheat with people who are the complete opposite of you. You wonder how they could downgrade—how they could be with someone so different. It is because they do not care about the quality of the person; they only care about the use they can get out of them. If a random stranger gives them five minutes of validation, they will take it. Their morality is broken; they do not have that voice in their head that says this is wrong, sacred, or unacceptable. To them, nothing is sacred; nothing is off-limits. Everything is just an object to be consumed.
Delusional Revenge: Cheating During a Fight
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