Narcissists have numerous delusions about their lives, often with grandiose fantasies that lead them to believe they have special prominence, talent, or unusual fame. They will do whatever it takes to support these delusions. For example, if you are the child of a narcissistic mother, she does not value you as her child but rather as a tool to maintain her image as a great mother figure. If you run away from home, your departure disrupts that fantasy and exposes her delusions. Your absence forces the narcissistic mother to confront reality, which terrifies her. She fears that her facade will crumble and her true nature will be revealed. This reality shatters the fantasy world she lives in, which is why she longs for your presence—as a means to create these delusions.
Number 5: The Narcissist Cannot Stand the Intense Negative Feelings That Are Triggered by Your Absence
The narcissist cannot stand the intense negative feelings triggered by your absence. Negative feelings are a natural aftermath of abandonment or rejection. Narcissists despise feeling such negativity; their primary goal is to protect their ego, not to move on. A narcissist’s ego is already unstable, and abandonment or rejection only worsens it. They want to minimize, if not entirely avoid, these intense negative feelings at all costs. For this reason, they long for the person who left to return because they want that person to alleviate those intense negative emotions.
Number 6: The Narcissist’s New Victims Do Not Give the Satisfaction They Crave
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