Let’s move on to number three: narcissists go radio silent during your crisis. Narcissists tend to disappear right when you need them the most. You could be going through something really tough—like losing your job, dealing with a sick loved one, or barely holding yourself together—and suddenly they vanish. No check-ins, no support, just silence. It hurts, doesn’t it? But here’s the hard truth: narcissists don’t do well when the spotlight isn’t on them. Your pain makes them uncomfortable because it means they can’t be the main focus. To them, your crisis is just background noise, something they’d rather skip, and that silence is proof they never really cared—at least not in the way you deserve.
Now let’s continue to number four: narcissists are never genuinely happy for you. Have you ever shared good news with a narcissist and felt worse afterward? You finally get that promotion, reach a big goal, or just feel proud of yourself. However, their reaction is weirdly cold or fake. Maybe they say the right words, like “Wow, that’s great,” but it feels empty, almost forced. Deep down, you sense they’re not genuinely happy for you. That’s because your success can feel like a threat to them, and if they do act excited, it’s usually because it makes them look good, not because they truly care. Your joy only matters to them if they can use it for their own image.
You shouldn’t miss number five: narcissists gaslight your emotions as overreactions. Suppose you try to explain how hurt you feel or how something the narcissist did really got to you. However, instead of listening, they flip it back on you. Suddenly, you’re the problem; they say you’re overreacting, imagining things, or being dramatic. After hearing that enough, you start to question your own feelings. That’s gaslighting. It’s not that your emotions are too much; narcissists just don’t want to deal with them. They don’t care enough to truly understand or validate what you’re feeling, so instead, they make you doubt yourself because it’s easier for them to ignore your pain than to take responsibility for causing it.
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