The fourth thing that happens is that you integrate your shadow strength to protect your light. I haven’t talked about this before. A royal empath is often taught that being good means being nice, soft, and agreeable. The narcissist weaponized your kindness against you, calling your boundaries mean or cold. But the warrior you have become has integrated the shadow. You have realized that nice is often just a trauma response, while goodness requires the strength to be dangerous when necessary. You have not become a bad person like them, but you have developed teeth. You have stopped being just a healer for people who only want to bleed on you and started being a guardian of your own soul. You do not seek out conflict, but you no longer fear it. When a narcissist tries to cross a line, they do not find a crying victim; they hit a wall of cold, hard steel. You have learned how to weaponize your “no.” You have learned that your silence is a boundary and your absence is a consequence. By integrating this shadow strength, you protect your light so that it’s only available to those who have earned the right to see it.
The fifth thing that happens is you become a psychological mirror that forces them to swallow their own poison. For years, the narcissist used you as a sponge for their shame and garbage. Every time they felt like a failure, what did they do? They projected that onto you. But the healed empath undergoes a shift where they stop absorbing and start reflecting. You become a mirror that is so polished and so clear that the narcissist cannot stand to look at you. When they throw their insults or projections at you, they don’t stick anymore. You just watch the garbage fall on the floor between you. You do not pick it up; you don’t try to clean it. You just stand there and let the narcissist realize that they’re the only person in the room covered in filth. This is a total reversal of the dynamic. By refusing to carry their projections, you force a narcissist to swallow their own poison. They are left choking on their own lies because you no longer provide the receptacle for their sickness. You have moved into a state of total immunity, and that is a level of power that literally makes a narcissist feel like they are disappearing.
Now, tell me, which one of these changes have you been through as an empath who has healed after narcissistic abuse or is going through the process of awakening?
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