Narcissists despise criticism, even if it’s constructive. Comments like:
- “You’ll do better next time.”
- “That’s not how I would have handled it.”
…shatter their sense of superiority. Comparing them to others—ironically, a tactic they often use—throws them off balance.
6. The Discard
Ending a relationship with a narcissist can be one of the most destabilizing experiences for them. They prefer to control the narrative, often lining up new “supply” before discarding you. If you leave first, they lose their ability to play the victim or claim victory in the breakup. Expect reactions like:
- “I didn’t want you anyway.”
- “Good riddance—you were the problem.”
Although these comments are meant to hurt you, they reveal their desperation to maintain control.
Narcissistic Injury and Rage
When you hurt a narcissist’s ego—intentionally or unintentionally—you cause a narcissistic injury. Their fragile self-esteem can’t withstand criticism or rejection, leading to narcissistic rage. This explosive reaction often includes yelling, accusations, or attempts to manipulate you.
Moving Forward
While these tactics may expose a narcissist’s vulnerabilities, they come with risks. Their responses can be volatile and damaging. Instead of engaging, consider the gray rock technique or going no contact to protect yourself.
If you’re recovering from a narcissistic relationship, remember: their discard might be the greatest gift they’ve ever given you. Prioritize your healing, self-worth, and happiness—you deserve it.
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