The narcissist gaslights us into thinking that we are less than they are when we are actually so much more. We have within us the ability to be happy in and of ourselves. We have the ability to truly love ourselves for who we really are. We have the ability to address any shame, hurt, or fear inside of us, whereas the narcissist does not. They look outside to find what they need. They avoid self-reflection. They avoid their true selves. And that is why they look to others to make them happy.
They look to others to try and escape their shame and fear. And they hate the fact that they need us more than we need them. So, they try to make themselves as relevant as they possibly can. They will not stop at getting you just emotionally attached and dependent on them; if they can make you financially dependent or dependent in any other way, they will. Because it is all about gaining control and feeling relevant. But at the same time, because they need us to feel in control, they need us to serve them, validate them, appease them, or entertain them; we are the ones with the real power, and when we stop caring about them or walk away from them, the reality of the narcissist’s powerlessness is revealed. To summarize, even if we are duped or manipulated into handing over our power to the narcissist,We can take it back.
whereas the narcissist constantly transfers power to those around them. And it is because they have no peace or happiness within them. So, they have to look without. They have to rely on others to constantly entertain and distract them from themselves. As a result, the ones who fuel or feed the narcissist are the ones with real power over the narcissist, but many times they do not realise it. We are also more powerful than narcissists because we can love ourselves, face our fears, and overcome shame. The narcissist is unable. OK, that is it. I hope you all find this useful.
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