For empaths, chosen ones, and genuine souls, it’s vital to understand the narcissist’s current predicament. They have often gone to extreme lengths to damage the relationship, creating a situation where they feel they cannot simply return. They are aware, on some level, of the pain they’ve inflicted through deception, infidelity, and other harmful behaviors. This awareness prevents them from easily re-entering your life.
Those who do attempt to return are often operating under a delusion and are frequently met with rejection. This potential for rejection is something they fear, leading them to avoid direct attempts at reconciliation. Instead, they often resort to manipulative tactics, such as portraying a seemingly perfect life to induce jealousy or draw you back in. They believe this is a strategic approach, and unfortunately, it often catches people off guard.
They feel trapped; approaching you directly and admitting their mistakes would likely result in rejection, something they deeply fear. They are also aware that you are emotionally detaching, which further fuels their anxiety. Their hope is that, over time, you will come to terms with their actions and be willing to let them back into your life. This is why they may “hoover” after significant periods, even decades, clinging to the hope that you still desire their return.
They lack the skills to repair relationships in a healthy and authentic way; therefore, they resort to manipulative tactics, such as portraying a perfect life on social media to maintain a presence in your mind and evoke feelings of inadequacy. This public display of happiness, especially with a new partner, is a form of devaluation and humiliation. While this behavior may cause pain, it ultimately reflects their own insecurities. Their rapid transition to a new relationship and the immediate posting about it on social media reveals their need for constant validation and their inability to be alone. It also suggests that they were likely already lining up new supply before the relationship with you ended.
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