When The Narcissist Knows You’re Done, This Is What Happens
When the narcissist knows you’re done, this is what happens: everyone, the ice has finally broken. For me, that’s why you should also establish limits and recognize when something is amiss. It’s necessary.
Once you stop responding, nothing else is heard from your end with the narcissist. They are making an effort, but you don’t care. Worse yet, what happens when the narcissist realizes you’re done with them? If you watch this video, I’ll break it down for you.
Today, we will explore the narcissist’s reaction once they realize you’re done with them. It has come to the point where you’ve said, “The end!” It’s finished—lock it down with a pin. Everything is now over.
I wish I could tell you how relieved I am that you’ve come to this realization, but the narcissist isn’t. They will attempt to regain your focus because they fear that, despite your newfound independence, you will still be preoccupied with them. The realization that you are now the dominant party must be devastating to their pride. They dislike it because they prefer to play a leading role. The goal is for them to take charge of you.
When a narcissist reaches out to you and is turned down, it can be humiliating and detrimental to their self-esteem. When only one person has power and can make decisions, things can become complicated for them. The ability to influence and foresee the outcome is crucial. The two of you may have decided to part ways and go on with your lives, but if they haven’t expressed their feelings before, they are reaching out now because they want and need you to notice and validate how they feel. This is exactly what they are looking for: the ability to dictate the terms of the relationship.
But when you step up and take the reins, they can’t cope since they no longer receive any form of attention or emotional validation from you, and they have no idea what you’re about to accomplish. It’s possible that an attachment disorder is keeping them from moving past this stage. Due to it, they are unable to form healthy bonds with you or break away from you, thinking of you as their property. Even if they’ve moved on and found another source of supply, they’ll still treat you like property and view you as an object rather than a human being with whom they could form meaningful relationships.
As a result of their attachment issues, they will do whatever they please and then come back to you, confused and bewildered. Instead of offering an explanation, they choose to avoid taking responsibility for their behavior. They hope you will welcome them back with open arms and assure them that everything will be fine, despite the fact that they have brought nothing but trouble, drama, and tragedy to your life. However, in practice, this is not how things function. They can’t simply return with a weak explanation or nothing at all and expect things to be great. The harm they caused remains, and it’s not as simple as just welcoming them back.
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