You might wonder, how is a narcissist able to do this? How are they able to turn other people against you? Narcissists are charming, charismatic, and generous. They know how to work a room and, trust me, they know how to work the people around you. They can often cut a very sympathetic figure, talking about how hard they’ve been working on the relationship but need to share some terrible things about your sister, daughter, or friend. They are really good at setting the tone: “I need to talk to you about something difficult.
I hate to be the one to bring this to you, but I think it’s important you hear this.” They are that good at a performance—they are that cruel, manipulative, and exploitative to spread this kind of stuff about you. They may take arguments you’ve had, things that have been said, or even fabricate full-on lies. Narcissists are singularly motivated by power, and they gain power by getting everyone on their side. It almost sounds like elementary school playground games: if I can get everyone on my side, I’ll be the king of kickball. Narcissists continue playing these elementary school games well into adulthood. What motivates them is the win—they want to win people over and feel like they have more power over you.
So, what do you do if you find yourself in this kind of situation? We know narcissists use flying monkeys, but the question is, what do you do about it? ….
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