1. Playing Nice
When a narcissist knows they have done something that will backfire, they cannot escape the consequences. There is irrefutable proof—be it video footage, documented evidence, or witness accounts. Unable to twist the narrative, they play the “nice card.”
Instead of apologizing, they become overly helpful and try to please you. They aim to placate you, hoping you’ll overlook their mistakes. They convince you to focus on the “good things” they have done, urging you to dismiss their blunders as minor mishaps.
2. Raging and Blaming Others
If playing nice doesn’t work, they resort to rage. They scream, yell, and shift the blame to you or external factors. They may even forge counter-evidence, bring in false witnesses, or twist the narrative to paint you as the one at fault.
They might say, “I was trying to be nice, but you turned it into a fight. Let me show you how wrong you are!” They justify their actions with anger, claiming that their outbursts were a natural reaction to your alleged behavior.
3. Smear Campaigns and Lies
A narcissist might openly lie about you, running a smear campaign to isolate you. They aim to make others view you negatively, ensuring you lose credibility. They project their faults onto you, making it seem as though you are the toxic one.
They manipulate others, often exploiting cultural or religious sentiments, to gain collective support against you.
4. Minimizing the Damage
Even when their actions cause severe harm—be it financial loss, social isolation, or emotional devastation—they downplay the consequences. They might say, “It’s not a big deal. Everyone makes mistakes. Be grateful you can start over.”
This dismissive attitude leaves you feeling invalidated and frustrated.
5. Acting Like Nothing Happened
The most infuriating behavior is when they act as though nothing happened. For example, if their actions caused you to lose your job, they might casually ask the next morning, “What do you want for breakfast?”
Their lack of empathy is shocking and leaves you questioning their humanity.
Conclusion
Narcissists destroy lives and then blame their victims, leaving them to deal with the aftermath alone. This often creates anger and a desire for revenge in those affected.
But remember, your anger is valid. It is sacred rage—a natural response to immense pain. Use it to fuel your healing journey.
