I have to put it as it is. There is no compassion for you, no consideration. You are a means to an end. You have to understand that if you are a child of such a parent, don’t expect understanding, kindness, or anything except cruelty. If it is a covert narcissist, they may appear loving to you, but behind your back, they’ll stab you. In front of others, they will torture you and call you all sorts of names, but when they are in front of you, they will be nice. That is how cruel they are.
Talking about my malignant narcissistic father, he would use me and my sister as labor, as servants, especially on weekends. I don’t remember looking forward to weekends or being excited for them. It was like Doomsday for me. Anticipatory anxiety would build up. Either they would fight with each other and it would be a total mess, or he would take us to a piece of agricultural land he owned and make us work on it from 10 AM to 3 or 4 PM. Whole days wasted, no time for play or exploration. “We’re tired, Dad,” we would say, and he would verbally abuse us, harass us, and physically abuse us. That’s what I remember: always demanding more of us because we were seen as a source of free labor. Why not utilize us? Where is that parental connection? There is no space for it. He never spent time taking us on vacations or to places where we could connect with each other. There was always either work, a back-and-forth relationship, or a performance-based interaction. You had to do something to please him.
Number Three: They Control You Using FOG
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