A noble narcissist will talk about you a lot in the beginning, only to dominate every conversation later. Covert narcissists are obsessed with themselves and get triggered when you shift the conversation to yourself. This type of narcissist, however, will listen to you intently, asking about your hobbies, family, and experiences. They will seem like they care deeply, creating a fake rapport. Their body language will make you feel seen and heard in a way that feels almost surreal. But after a while, they will start dominating the conversation, talking about their life, their relationships, and their past.
When you try to share something about yourself, they will use passive-aggressive behaviors, call you crazy, or laugh it off, shutting you down and silencing you. Over time, they will create a sense of moral obligation, making you believe that you need to treat them differently from everyone else, as they are “special.”
Sign 3: Creating Moral Debt
A noble narcissist will leave you with a moral debt, which they will demand you pay back later. They may offer financial help or other types of support, which is something most narcissists don’t do. They will be there for you when you’re struggling, offering a shoulder to cry on or helping you solve personal issues. But it’s all done with a bigger goal in mind—to make you feel obligated so they can later call in the favor.
For example, they may offer to help you during a divorce, assist with your legal matters, or be there when you’re emotionally vulnerable. In your mind, they are the “nice” person because they’ve been there for you, but in reality, they are creating a situation where you feel morally compelled to help them later. When you refuse to help, they will turn on you with cruelty and revenge, making you feel guilty for not meeting their needs.
Sign 4: Feigning Casualties
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