A noble narcissist is not your ordinary covert narcissist. This type of narcissism is far more difficult to recognize and more dangerous to deal with. Why? Well, they are sociopathic and cunning by nature but moral in approach and attitude. What does that mean? It means that this type of narcissist will not react to your boundaries the way other narcissists do. When you say “no,” what do you get back from a narcissist? If they are a covert narcissist, they will become passive-aggressive or give you the silent treatment. But when you’re dealing with a noble narcissist, they will act differently. Essentially, it’s hidden narcissism on steroids— as bad as it gets. This type of narcissist exhibits every aspect of the dark personality: sadism, narcissism, psychopathy, and Machiavellianism. They will give you all the space to breathe only to suffocate you later. The scary thing is, every red flag you know about narcissism does not match their personality.
So, how do you recognize this type of beast? How do you deal with this demon? Let’s find out.
Sign 1: Fake Respect for Boundaries
A noble narcissist shows fake respect for your boundaries, only to destroy them later. Unlike a covert narcissist, who will treat you with the silent treatment if you don’t comply and force compliance through passive-aggression, a noble narcissist will say, “I’m okay, it’s fine with me.” For example, if you tell them, “I would like to remain celibate and not get physically intimate with you until we are married or until certain conditions are met,” they will say, “Fine, okay.” They don’t like small victories; they prefer the big kill—the bigger prey. So, they will give you all the space and be moral in their approach, saying, “Absolutely, I won’t touch you. Take your time.”
This does not match the typical narcissistic profile because one of the biggest red flags of a narcissist is that they will break your boundaries—they need you to say “yes” and will violate you, gaslight you, or guilt-trip you. A noble narcissist, however, will play the long game, forcing you to think, “Maybe this is the right person for me” because they respect your boundaries.
But it’s all a strategy. They know that by giving you space, you will eventually feel morally obligated and say “yes” when the time comes. They are setting you up for the bigger kill: complete control over you.
Sign 2: Dominating Conversations
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