A great example of this is seen in narcissistic marriages. You might not want a divorce due to your beliefs, children, finances, culture, or religion, but over time, you may reach a breaking point. In many narcissistic marriages, the narcissistic partner may frequently threaten divorce as a form of gaslighting, keeping you on edge so that you comply with their demands. However, if you eventually agree to the divorce, the narcissist might suddenly backtrack, saying, “I didn’t mean that; we can work on this.” This reaction occurs because their abandonment fears are activated when they realize you’re willing to go through with it.
As long as the narcissist controls the narrative, especially knowing you don’t want a divorce, they feel secure. But when you flip the script and agree to the divorce, it’s amazing how quickly they reconsider. This highlights the constant undercurrent of abandonment fears in these relationships.
I hope this gives you some insight into the vulnerabilities inherent in narcissistic personalities. If this has happened to you or is happening now, I hope it provides some clarity.
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