Quiet Quitting: The Safe Way to Leave
Leaving a narcissistic relationship is a process, not a single step. On average, it takes people six to eight months, sometimes a year or more, to leave a narcissist. This is because you have to prepare financially, emotionally, and logistically. You must divorce them emotionally first, which is often referred to as “quiet quitting.” This means letting your emotions towards them die off before you physically leave. You need to build a support system, consult with lawyers, and analyze the risks involved. It’s crucial to be two steps ahead of the narcissist—predict their behavior and plan your responses accordingly. Narcissists are somewhat predictable; they may either attempt to love-bomb you to regain control or rage at you. In both cases, you must be prepared and safe enough to avoid harm.
The Process of Leaving a Narcissist
When leaving a narcissist, it’s not about making a grand announcement; it’s a process that requires careful planning. Imagine you’re climbing a staircase with 100 steps—the ultimate goal is to leave, but you must take it one step at a time. With each step, you get closer to safety, ensuring that you, and any children involved, will be okay.
