It’s easy to lose credibility when you don’t do what you say you’ll do. A healthy population will abide by your rules; they’ll be grateful that you made it clear when it’s time to set limits or enforce boundaries. The opposite is true for narcissists. If they don’t give up quickly and move on, your boundaries should be firmer and clearer. It would also help if you learned how to defend yourself, both emotionally and physically.
Fourth, always improve your self-esteem. It’s much easier to stand up to name-calling, lies, and a smear campaign if you know who you are and have a positive self-image. Reconnect with the love you feel for yourself, your family, and your past. In other words, you’re not as attracted to manipulative and bullying people because they lack empathy. Put in your time.
Fifth, gather evidence. One must take careful notes when interacting with narcissists; there aren’t many words to describe something that is only black and white. When everything is documented, it’s hard to make up stories about what was said. Keep records of all correspondence you have, whether written or electronic, with them. It’s possible you’ll never use it, but knowing you have it is a great feeling. Keeping meticulous records is thus crucial; the facts speak for themselves when dealing with a narcissist. There’s no need for words, which would only lead to more drama.
Last but not least, don’t be rushed. If you want to put a narcissist in their place, you’ll have to be patient. You can always count on the truth at the right time. Develop a sense of trust and perseverance. The narcissists I’ve spoken of allow only those truly worthy of attention to get close to them. Time is all that is required; they really ought to. A narcissist will be exposed as such when disparate elements do not fit together or make logical sense. Eventually, the public will learn the truth about the narcissist.
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