When a smear campaign begins, your immediate instinct is to fix the system. You want to go on a public relations tour. You want to call every friend, family member, and co-worker to explain what really happened. You want to show them text messages. You want to prove that you are the good person and the narcissist is the liar. However, you are holding onto a fantasy. The fantasy is that if you just explain it clearly enough, these people will suddenly wake up, apologize, and turn against the narcissist.
You must let go of this fantasy today. It’s not your job to fix a broken system. It’s not your responsibility to educate people who chose to believe a lie without ever hearing your side of the story. Think of it like a rigged casino. You’re walking into a casino where the games are completely rigged against you. The dealer is cheating; the cards are marked. You can sit at the table and play your best hand. You can be honest and play by the rules, but you will still lose your money because the house is corrupt.
The only way to win in a rigged casino is to stand up, cash out whatever you have left, and walk out the front door. You must depersonalize their betrayal. The people who turned against you were misled, but they also showed compliance. They illustrated their lack of loyalty and how easy they can be manipulated. Do not fight for a seat at a table that disrespects you. Let them be wrong about you. Let them believe the lie. The lone wolf does not waste energy trying to convince a herd of sheep that they are following a fake shepherd. You just walk away into the trees and leave them to their fate.
Walk Away & Become the Lone Wolf: Fierce Self-Reliance in the Wilderness
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