That is what it means to become a supernova. It was exhausting for me. It was that last part of me, shining as brightly as it could, that fought back those last moments of strength left in me. I felt dead exhausted right after that. I didn’t eat; I couldn’t sleep. He had abused me physically, and there were marks all over my body. It was a real bad situation, but as I said, it changed my life. I can proudly say that it was a supernova moment for me. I did not manipulate him; I did not make fun of him; I did not put him down; I did not become toxic like him. I just stepped into my power, spoke with integrity, honesty, and authenticity. I said it as it is, and he tried to shut me down because he was afraid of the neighbors listening or hearing what was going on. He was more concerned about that than the pain I was going through. I didn’t care about that because it was all fake, so how does it matter if it comes out? It comes out.
That is an example that I gave you. Now also, I read somewhere, and this is also a misconception, “Oh, those people who are real empaths won’t call themselves empaths.” Why downplay yourself? As an empath, as a people pleaser, as a codependent, call it whatever you want, haven’t you been programmed to downplay yourself? “Oh, it’s not that great.” Why reduce yourself? You’re not saying, “I am God. I have superpowers that nobody can have, that I am invincible,” like the narcissist says. If you say, “I’m an empath,” you are just accepting, radically accepting, your sensitivity, your compassion for others, your kindness for others. You’re at the same time embracing that, as a human being, you have limitations, and in addition to caring for others, you have to care for yourself as well. This is your gift. You feel a little more. What is wrong with calling yourself an empath? Some people say, “Oh, I didn’t know until this age I was an empath. It’s only that thing that made me aware.” So, it’s your experience. That’s not universal. If you know you’re an empath, if you feel that connection with others, with animals, with everybody, fine, it’s okay. There is no shame in acknowledging that you are a good, capable, resourceful, and helpful human being as long as you stay rooted in your reality and do not become delusional or grandiose in your ideas or perceptions of who you are and what you stand for. That is what matters, not what we say.
So, this is actually the journey of an empath to a supernova or a super empath. One more interesting thing that I noticed is that a lot of covert narcissists or overt narcissists as well, who are aware of narcissism, call themselves supernovas. Two narcissists so far have used the same word. I don’t know what’s happening, but occasionally, within, let’s say, 2 to 3 months of intervals, a narcissist will book a session with me, and this narcissist won’t be aware. They will say, “Oh, I am a supernova.” They will justify their destructive behavior, and when I ask, “How do you know you are a supernova?” they would send me a video that’s totally unrelated to empathy. They are being toxic, they are being destructive, they are being narcissistic, and think it’s being an empath. No. So, narcissists—covert narcissists—find this label very alluring, a way to justify their narcissism. That’s why if somebody tells you, “I am a Heyoka empath, I am a supernova empath, and this empath, that empath,” be cautious. Be rooted in reality. We are all human beings, and we are all fallible. We can make mistakes, and that’s okay.
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