“You always want to fight.”
This is one of the most common phrases narcissists use to make you feel guilty. If you express even the slightest discomfort or call them out on their behavior, they immediately flip the script, accusing you of picking fights.
They force you to swallow your words and fill you with guilt so they don’t have to confront their wrongdoings. When you react to their abuse, they’ll act calm and composed, making you look irrational. They may even involve others, like your children, saying, “Look at how they’re behaving. I didn’t cause this.”
This tactic alienates you from others, leaving you feeling isolated and misunderstood.
5. You’re Never There for Me
“You’re never there for me.”
This phrase is slightly different from the abandonment accusation. A narcissist expects you to be available 24/7. If it’s a narcissistic partner, they don’t see you as an equal—they see you as their caregiver, their emotional servant.
If you’re sad, sick, or unable to meet their demands, they’ll resent you for it. They might even say things like, “If you’re sick, who’s going to take care of me?” They burden you with tasks, set you up for failure, and then focus solely on the one thing you didn’t do perfectly to “prove” that you don’t love them.
This constant barrage convinces you that you’re unworthy and responsible for fixing everything, prolonging your suffering and preventing you from leaving.
Conclusion
Let me know in the comments below if you’ve experienced anything like this. I’ll talk to you in the next episode. Until then, as always, let the healing begin—and remember, you are not the problem.
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