In Islam, the Quran is brutally clear about those who are arrogant and oppressive: “Indeed, those who distort the truth and act arrogantly in the land without right, those will I turn away from My signs. Even if they were to see every sign, they would not believe in it” (Quran 7:46). Narcissists do not repent or change; even if God Himself sent them a miracle, they would twist it to serve their own ego. They are spiritually blind by choice.
How to Handle a Narcissist: Detach with Wisdom
1. Detach with Wisdom
Do not give your energy to the wicked. Every religion tells us to guard our energy. Narcissists do not just take your time, love, and resources; they take your spiritual essence. You walk away from them feeling drained, confused, and exhausted. In Hinduism, Krishna tells Arjuna in the Gita, “A person who is not disturbed by happiness and distress and remains steady in both is certainly eligible for liberation.” You must rise above their chaos; learn to detach. Do not let them control your emotions because they feed on your reactions. The moment you stop giving them energy, they lose power.
In the Bible, Proverbs warns us: “Do not answer a fool according to his folly, or you yourself will be just like him” (Proverbs 26:4). You do not owe a narcissist an explanation, a debate, or an argument. Let them talk to themselves; let them rant into the void. You are not required to entertain their insanity.
In Islam, the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said, “The strong man is not the one who overcomes others by his strength, but the one who controls himself when angry.” Narcissists want to provoke you; they want you to react, to fight, to engage. But when you control yourself and walk away, you deny them the power they crave.
2. When to Stand Up: Choosing Your Battles Wisely
Let me make one thing clear: I’m not saying you must remain silent in every situation. There are times when you must take a stand against a narcissist—not for their sake, but for your own protection. Silence should never be mistaken for submission. If a narcissist is actively harming you, endangering you, or manipulating those around you in a way that could have serious consequences, you may need to speak up.
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