The silent treatment is another manipulation tactic that narcissists use to maintain control. By withdrawing communication, they create confusion and desperation, pushing you to reach out and apologize for things you didn’t do, all to manipulate your feelings and keep you emotionally dependent.
You may have experienced this in your own life, where a narcissist disappeared without explanation, leaving you confused and longing for clarity. This tactic aims to instill a sense of loss, making you invested in the relationship. You may find yourself wishing for a different outcome, hoping for their return, which perpetuates the cycle.
However, it’s crucial to recognize that narcissists lack genuine emotional connections. While they may make you feel loved during the initial stages, the emotional bond is often shallow and self-serving. They seek validation and gratification rather than a deep, meaningful relationship.
When a narcissist says they miss you, it’s often a ploy for validation or manipulation, not a sign of genuine care. Many people confuse these actions and may believe that their partner truly cares, but the reality is that they only return because you allow it.
If you find yourself wanting to reach out to a narcissist, I encourage you to reflect on the negative experiences you’ve had with them. Write down 25 things they did that hurt you, and sign your name at the bottom. This exercise can help you realize that accepting them back means accepting the possibility of recurring pain.
Instead of focusing on whether the narcissist will return or what they want, it’s essential to shift your focus back to yourself. How are you healing? How are you growing? The narcissist’s actions are their responsibility, not yours. You have the power to choose how to move forward.
Consider how the situation has impacted your health, relationships, and sense of purpose. You have the option to change your circumstances and prioritize your well-being.
At the end of the day, remember that a narcissist’s desire to see you is often rooted in manipulation. They only want to reconnect to regain control or to fulfill their own needs.
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