Understanding whether narcissists end relationships themselves reveals insight into the complex, often painful dynamics involved in relationships with narcissists. When a narcissist feels that their “supply”—the person or people who validate their sense of self—is no longer providing the admiration, attention, or emotional responsiveness they crave, they will often initiate a toxic and destructive end to the relationship.
The Narcissistic Supply and Its Role
Narcissists thrive on what is known as “narcissistic supply.” This refers to anything that satisfies their need for external validation, admiration, and attention, which is crucial for their self-esteem and sense of identity. However, when the narcissistic supply is no longer satisfying, the narcissist enters a devaluation phase. During this phase, the narcissist’s idealized view of the person changes drastically, and they begin to exhibit cold and cruel behavior.
The Devaluation Phase and Silent Treatment
When the narcissistic supply stops serving the narcissist’s desires, they may initiate the devaluation phase. Here, they start to devalue the individual, treating them as less than before and withdrawing emotionally. The narcissist may employ silent treatment, a manipulation tactic where they act disinterested and unresponsive, making the person feel dismissed and unworthy. This tactic often causes immense confusion and emotional pain, as the victim feels distanced and unimportant.
Seeking New Supply
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