With all their charm, narcissists try to extract your most intimate secrets and vulnerabilities. They pretend to care so much that confiding in them feels natural. However, they are fishing for weaknesses to exploit later. These questions allow them to gaslight you and potentially harm you when they are ready to destroy you.
So, how should you handle questions that make you feel rushed, exposed, or uncomfortable? If a question feels off—too personal, too fast, or too intense—the best approach is to take a break and pause the conversation. A healthy person will respect your hesitation; a manipulative one will push harder or try to guilt-trip you into answering quickly. That pause can help you determine the type of person you are dealing with.
That little pause gives you space to breathe, notice how you feel, and decide if you even want to answer. Creepy or manipulative people like narcissists hate pauses, but those pauses allow you to remain in control. Once you’ve thought it through, you can deflect by changing the topic or letting them know you are not comfortable or ready to answer that question. Never feel pressured to respond to any question that makes you uncomfortable.
In conclusion, the questions narcissists ask are strategic, intrusive, and creepy. The creepiness usually stems from how quickly they ask these questions and the intensity behind them. These questions are designed to bring you closer and gain control over you. Trust your instincts and don’t let anyone rush you into anything.
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