This betrayal is unique because it isn’t just about cheating. The real betrayal started from the beginning, when they pretended to be someone kind and loving, convincing you they were a different person. You fell in love with a mirage—a false version of them that never existed. Over time, they continued to convince you that you were the problem, telling you that you were too sensitive, too demanding, or too needy. None of this was true. This manipulation created a moral wound, making you doubt yourself while they escaped responsibility.
Understanding Your Survival Responses
As a human being, you have survival instincts. You tried to fight back, have open conversations, or even run away from situations (a “flight” response). You may have suppressed your emotions, put your needs on hold, or simply complied (a “freeze” or “fawn” response) to keep the peace. But no matter how much you gave, it was never enough. You finally reached a breaking point, where anger and frustration took over.
The Narcissist’s Entitlement and Your Anger
Now, the narcissist may point at you and say, “Look at my angry, nagging partner.” But they avoid asking themselves what caused it. You’re carrying the weight of childcare, finances, household chores, and emotional labor—all responsibilities they ignore. Your anger isn’t unfounded; it’s a natural response to continuous stress, betrayal, and lack of support. A narcissist, steeped in entitlement, rarely offers help or even acknowledges your need for rest.
The Hidden Violations and Their Lasting Effects
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