These random out-of-the-blue love bombing episodes typically happen when the narcissist senses that you’re no longer fully focused on them or no longer fully committed to the relationship or when they’re feeling empty or lonely because they’re low on supply. But if you take the bait and you start to feel like you’re, you know, doing okay and connected again, the very next day or a couple of days later, they’re completely going cold again. Maybe they’re criticizing you. Maybe they’re ghosting you. And you’ll start to see a lot of this switching back and forth from hot to cold and back again, reasonable to unreasonable, happy to angry, to cute and funny again.
So again, seeing both sides of them, creating intense cognitive dissonance and strengthening the trauma bond. At this point, you may be seeing all the red flags, but you might still think that you can rescue them with your love. But after you experience the cycle repeatedly and possibly after you find out about some of their other sources of supply, maybe you’ll realize that it’s emotional manipulation.
6. Nonsensical texts
At times, a narcissist will send texts that literally make no sense, like complete gibberish. It’s as though it was sent by a four-year-old or a super intoxicated person. The words are full of spelling mistakes. There’s no order to the sentence, and you really don’t know what they’re trying to say. And when you ask for clarification, they treat you like a complete idiot for not being able to decipher the message. This is to confuse you. It’s to say, “I don’t have time for you.” It’s to provoke a reaction, create drama, or assert dominance. It’s part of their pattern of seeking attention, validation, and power, rather than efforts to, you know, have a genuine conversation. Another common nonsensical text from a narcissist is the wrong person text. Sure, they might genuinely get mixed up when texting their various sources of supply, but often it’s not an accident. It is aimed at upsetting you.
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