The sixth type of gift is cheap trash after they spoiled themselves. This is about the devaluation hierarchy. This happens when you watch them spend thousands of dollars on themselves—new watches, new clothes, and expensive hobbies. They treat themselves like royalty, full-on luxury. Then your special day comes. What do you get? A generic card from the gas station, a cheap trinket from the dollar store, or something regifted from the back of the closet.
The contrast is the point. The discrepancy between what they spend on themselves and what they spend on you sends a clear message: “I am the king or queen, and you are the peasant.” They want you to feel small. They want you to feel like you are not worth the effort. It is a slap in the face, designed to make you beg for scraps. And if you dare to point out the difference, what happens, my dear survivor? You are labeled a gold digger who only cares about them when the real gold digger is the narcissist.
Number Seven: The Public Performance
The final type of gift is the one they only give when people are watching; this is the grand finale of manipulation, the performance. These are the gifts that are extremely expensive or flashy, or perhaps something you specifically asked them not to get, but they don’t give it to you in private. No, they wait until the family gathering, holidays, or Christmas. They wait until the party is in full swing and everyone is watching. They present this massive gift, and the whole room gasps. “Wow, we are so lucky! He or she is so generous,” but you are dying inside.
Maybe it’s a piece of jewelry that is gaudy and hideous. Maybe it’s a surprise trip you can’t take off work for, but now you are on stage. Think about that: you’re trapped. You have to smile, hug them, and perform joy. If you show even a bit of disappointment, you humiliate them in front of their audience, and you will pay for this later. This is emotional blackmail, as bad as it gets. They’re using the social pressure of the crowd to force you to validate them. They’re buying the crowd’s applause with your discomfort. It is the ultimate act of using you as a prop in their play.
Conclusion and Final Thoughts
For these reasons, I say narcissists are evil. Maybe they’re not evil by nature, but their actions certainly make them evil. That’s why they’re demonic. In our religious texts and cultures, what does demonic stand for? Bad people or entities that inflict pain and enjoy the outcome. Isn’t that what’s happening when narcissists do these things, whether they think about it consciously or not? That is the outcome. It doesn’t change anything.
So keep this in mind and don’t focus on the fake niceness of the narcissist. Focus on the hidden agenda and how you always take the hit. With that, let’s bring this episode to an end. Make sure to download your free guide—link is in the description or the comments. I will talk to you in the next one. Until then, as always, let the healing begin.
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