This is a classic non-apology that narcissistic people use as a form of manipulation. Rather than accepting responsibility for their actions, they put the focus on your feelings, implying that your emotional response is the issue, not what they did. A genuine apology acknowledges the wrong done—”I’m sorry for being late” or “I’m sorry for hurting you.”
The phrase “I’m sorry you feel that way” dismisses your emotions and is used to gaslight you, making you question whether your feelings are valid. It’s a subtle but powerful way narcissists avoid accountability.
3. “Why are you doing this to me?”
This statement illustrates a key characteristic of narcissistic relationships: the constant need for the narcissist to play the victim. Even if you are calmly asking for help or addressing an issue, the narcissistic person will perceive your request as an attack. They may respond to something as simple as “Can we talk about what happened last night?” or “I need help with the kids” with this phrase, making it seem like you’re intentionally hurting them.
For narcissists, everything revolves around them, and they struggle to see things from others’ perspectives. This victimhood is a way for them to avoid taking responsibility while shifting the focus back to themselves.
4. “I just don’t have time for this.”
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