6. Narcissists hate highly empathetic people.
And if you ask a narcissist, they’ll tell you that they hate empathetic people because they’re weak. And they truly believe this. They believe that empathy is something to be exploited. But the two things, empathy and weakness, aren’t the same.
Here’s where the narcissist might get a little bit confused. Someone who’s highly empathetic and lacks good boundaries is going to have a lot of vulnerabilities that the narcissist will see as a weakness to exploit. So if you are highly empathetic, take this as your sign to check your boundaries, especially if you’ve been hurt by a narcissist. And I want to be clear, I’m not saying that the only way a narcissist can hurt you is if your boundaries are weak. And if a narcissist did hurt you, it’s certainly not your fault. But I am saying it’s much easier for them to hurt you when your boundaries are weak. So try to take an honest look at where you are right now and see if you need to secure those boundaries.
Now let’s take this a little deeper than surface level and talk about why the narcissist really hates empathetic people. And the reason is similar to why they hate happy people. You have something the narcissist will never have, not to any meaningful degree. Narcissists lack empathy. And when I say empathy, I mean emotional or affective empathy. This is the type of empathy they see as a weakness because it’s the type of empathy that allows you to feel deep, meaningful connections.
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